nimitzbrood (nimitzbrood) wrote,

What _is_ it with people?!

April 29, 2008 11:44 AM

You give them good service and they expect you to do more.

You change your schedule so you can do more and they complain that things don’t happen immediately.

You prove that you have the knowledge and they discount every word you say and tell you that you don’t know what you’re talking about.

You could give them everything you have and everything you are and they would still not be satisfied.

And each day t gets worse and worse...

I’m not a fan of corporal punishment but I understand now why it’s necessary sometimes. We live in an age of people that grew up without any discipline in their lives. As far as they’re concerned it’s okay to act like an asshole or a bitch as long as you get what you want.

To quote a particular Eagles song “I’d like to find your inner child and kick its little ass!”

The worst part of this is that it’s not temporary - it’s sticking. Our society is changing so that people _expect_ others to act that way. Even people that were raised with the discipline to be polite are slowly changing to act with the same nasty attitude because they see it as the only way to get things done.

For my money this starts with parents. In the past kids were _afraid_ of angering their parents. And in a great many ways that was both a good and bad thing. It was a good thing because kids who have no fear of the universe learn to be more afraid of their parents than they are of doing something potentially harmful. It was a bad thing because some parents took it too far and caused serious problems for the kids growing up.

Most of the parents found the right balance though and their kids turned out okay. The problems came about later when parents became afraid that they would have their children taken away if they disciplined them in any manner. And in a lot of cases this happened. I’m sure you can dig around the web for examples.

So what has happened, and what is continuing to happen, is that a lot of parents say that they can’t seriously discipline their child or the child will make up something to tell social services to get their parents in hot water. And the kids who _are_ being disciplined and, as expected, resent it a little are listening to those kids that are telling them it’s okay to be bad and here’s how you do it.

And there’s a considerable amount of shame to be heaped upon the child services people for not investigating properly and discounting accusations where they are truly baseless. I will however admit two things where those organizations are concerned - one they are understaffed/underfunded usually, and two it’s better to be safe than sorry.

But when parents are so afraid of disciplining their child for fear of losing said child then they cease to be in control of the situation. What ends up happening, though usually not so openly stated, is that the children are put in the position of blackmailing their parents. The kids continue to do anything they want because they know they can get away with it.

And that attitude spreads both as the kids in question become adults and as adults around them learn to act the same way.

And so you end up with what we’re slowly moving towards - a society of completely obnoxious and mercenary people where everything done has to have some sort of profit to all the parties involved or it doesn’t happen. A society where the only people that rise to the top are the people that claw their way there.

A bleak view of the world but if it keeps going this way an accurate one. Frankly if I and others can’t find a way to change it I hope I’m long dead before it finally comes about...
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