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Same old same old.

Why must everyone be the same as everyone else?

Sitting here (digesting the stuffed peppers I made to combat this gloomy and sleet filled day) and my wife had the show "How Do I Look?" on the tv.

Now if you haven't seen this show it's where two people who know a third and a designer stage an intervention about the appearance of the victim in question. (Kind of like a multiple-person version of What Not To Wear - yet another show I have a problem with.)

The format is that they go through several different sequences to show the person how horrible they look and how they SO could do better. In the end the person bends to their will and changes their appearance and it's supposedly life changing.


Look. I'm not saying that people don't need to change. And I'm not saying people don't wear stuff that is unflattering to them. But what I see constantly with these shows (and I've watched several of them) is that to be "successful" in those conditions and not alienate their friends and family they have to become something that perhaps they are not.

I'd love to see how many of those people waited an appropriate time then went back to their old choices.

What I guess I'm leaning towards here is that all these shows seems to be pushing people towards all being...common. It's like nobody can be completely different than anybody else.

And here's the other thing - this society seems to focus on those people in a fantasy setting. Look over all the popular shows and you will often find at least one person who is totally beyond the pale as perhaps a characterature of someone in real life, Hell there's at least one show that is ALL characters like that. In fact two that I can think of fit that bill.

So best as I can tell we as a society (western society at least) keep our suits and ties tightly wound but in our hearts want to be someting totally different.

A society of bright and shiny hearts wrapped tight under grey cloth. I find that very sad.

Cross-posted from Dreamwidth ( http://nimitzbrood.dreamwidth.org/207695.html ) but feel free to comment here as well.

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Dec. 12th, 2010 03:10 pm (UTC)
When the Trapp family first immigrated to America, one of the first things that they noticed was that everyone tried to be like everyone else."A super omelet!" was the comment. It has not changed, Melting pot implies that we must all run together like gooey runny crayons, or something. Even the college here encourages people to jump through hoops to get good grades. Where are all our original thinkers? College should be a place to discuss ideas, and then learn how to implement them for the good of all. We have some lively discussions in my classes. My personal relationship class instructor told us all that we should try to stay as young as we can, I thought a little bit, then asked him,"Developmentally challenged people are young forever." I saw a few heads whip around like no one had ever thought about that before. But they don't care, was his answer.
Dec. 12th, 2010 11:19 pm (UTC)
Re: appearance
Frankly I did for a long time care about fitting in when I was younger.

Now...I really don't give a damn.

Truthfully I do see some changes in this. As the older generation fades in favor of the younger generation some things appearance-wise do seem to be more accepted these days and probably in the future as well.

But this whole thing goes beyond appearances. You're not acceptable in this society unless you think like everyone else as well.

And I don't find that acceptable and never will.
Dec. 13th, 2010 01:31 am (UTC)
Re: appearance
And I don't find that acceptable and never will.

And that, my friend, is why I call you that.
Dec. 12th, 2010 03:58 pm (UTC)
From what I understand of you - and myself - is not that people are needing to change and better themselves, but how it is being presented.

These shows come across in the most shallow and inane ways. "Oh, poor nimitzbrood, he is so ignorant that he likes cardigans... *insert laugh track here*

Fuck you. Maybe you like cardigans. Maybe they are comfortable to you. Maybe you wear one specific one because a dead family member gave it to you and you are wearing it to honor them.

These vainglorious peacocks try to present themselves as caring about the 3rd person, but it always comes across to me as if they are embarrassed by X and want to 'Help Them Get Better'.

I'll get off my soap box now. I have a big shiny red button that these assholes push.
Dec. 12th, 2010 11:10 pm (UTC)
My button for this is pretty large too. :-)
Dec. 13th, 2010 01:29 am (UTC)
My comments about these people tend to be more acidic, but I try to be polite in other people's journals.
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